Life as a new mum especially with your first baby is life changing. The attention has taken a huge shift from yourself to the new bundle of joy. Your emotions are all over the place & you might feel like a very different person to before.
The thing is you are a different person, it’s like a switch has just been turned on & just like that your a mum. It’s a whole new world that has opened up & you probably thought you were prepared.
Let me tell you something, you will never be prepared when it comes to babies & that’s ok.
The most common feeling that a new mum experiences are:
Lack of sleep
Negative body image
Do any of these ring a bell to you? It’s ok to feel any of these emotions, you might just need some help or TLC. Becoming a mum is the most precious thing in the world, but it is also the hardest.
One thing you will need to let go of is the preconceived ideas you had before & just let yourself enjoy this special time. I am a mother of two & I know for a fact that once I let go of the details life seemed so much easier.
Yes we all hear that babies sleep a lot, but guess what a lot of babies do NOT. This is the time when you need to look after yourself & create a support network around you. Getting support from people is not a sign of weakness, it’s actually shows that you are strong enough to seek help.
Life as a new mum is a whole new level of feeling busy, even if you were a busy career woman before. Before you weren’t on call 24/7, you had breaks, meal times, holidays, no vomit on your clothes. Now you are lucky to have a wee by yourself.
Creating outlets & a semi schedule is the way forward
Get out of the house
Take time for yourself
Let the housework slide
Turn your phone off
Do the washing first thing in the morning every other day
Schedule in girl time
Do some exercise (even if it’s just a walk)
Life as a new mum changes each day, one day can be relaxed & go so smoothly & then bam the next is like you have been slapped in the face. Try not to take it personally, these little creatures don’t come with an instruction manual.
You will probably hear ‘It’s just a phase’ all the time. This is probably true, however your emotions will be getting the better of you, so try not to take it personally.
Being a mum will leave you feeling so helpless at times & then the best mum in the world the next. Just ride the waves & try & be present in the moment to soak it all up. Before you know it they will be 21 & leaving home.
If you are feeling overwhelmed & really not yourself then make sure you seek professional help either from your Doctor, health visitor or midwife.