Mum Guilt

Becoming a mum is such an amazing journey, your life is changed in an instance as soon as the cord is cut. But is the cord ever actually cut? The connection we have with our children is like no other, you feel their pain, happiness, sadness & love.

This connection that we have lays the foundation to the way we feel as mothers. We live in a world with so much technology, Phone APS, advice from the internet & social media. We must be a perfect mum, have everything together, plus manage a stressful career if you have to return to work.

The guilt we feel on a daily basis is endless & it starts the moment you see the blue line appear.

We feel guilty about:

Not enough rest

Not eating healthy enough

Gaining too much weight

Sleep training

Breastfeeding or bottle feeding

Not being able to get your fussy eater to eat

Going back to work

The list in endless & can completely consume you if you let yourself fall into the mum guilt trap.

There are so many lessons to lea4n as a mum & this is one of the biggest.


Take the pressure off yourself, we are all first time mums at some point & we all have to learn the hard way. You don’t need to be the perfect mum, so please stop trying to be, you won’t get any medals, just more grey hairs & wrinkles.


This is especially true when it comes to the lovely tantrums phase. The mum guilt at this point can be just awful, you feel bad because you look like you can’t control your child. The point is, you don’t need to control your child, they are just learning boundaries & their emotional response is so present & real. It may not be rational behaviour but that’s how you both teach each other to be calm & patient.


This can be with yourself, partner or other children, the mum guilt you feel in all of these areas is real. You probably feel like you are not able to have the quality time like you used to & that is hard on you. Try & schedule in even 30 of uninterrupted time where needed & you will all feel better.


Maybe it’s the leaking breasts, lack of sleep or constant crying that makes you feel so incredibly guilty, take a well deserved break. Your not super mum & please don’t try to be, we all need breaks even mums. Don’t feel guilty about having a break & recuperating.

Mum guilt can be very real for a lot of people, just see it for what it is, you needing a break from the chaos, quality time, not being perfect & by choosing your battles. By communicating with your partner & also to yourself you will be able to release a lot of the guilt.

It is such a special time in your life to waste on such a negative & unhelpful emotion, so please try & not fall into the mum guilt trap.